Empathy vs. Sympathy (I Make This Mistake All the Time!)
Thursday, December 19, 2013
Has someone ever confided in you or told you how sad / conflicted / stressed / angry etc. they felt only to hear you say something like... "At least, you have a job" or "At least, you're doing well in something else. Life's not all bad". Well, I do it all the time and all this while I thought it was a way to make people feel better by reminding them to look on the bright side but I guess I was wrong!
It made perfect sense to me when Dr Brené Brown said, "Rarely can a response make something better. What makes something better is connection."
How true is that? The last time I had a bad day I reached out to someone I thought could relate to and yes, it was the fact that we had a connection that made me feel a lot better. I'm so grateful for these seemingly small important lessons.