Faith Friday: Confessions of a Sinner

Friday, December 27, 2013

Some people hate the word "sin". I don't know why. Maybe it makes them feel judged. But I don't focus on that because I know I make mistakes. I know I have made bad decisions. I know I can be selfish, unforgiving and impatient. Being a sinner makes me human and vice versa because at some point we all have moments of weakness.

Empathy vs. Sympathy (I Make This Mistake All the Time!)

Thursday, December 19, 2013

Has someone ever confided in you or told you how sad / conflicted / stressed / angry etc. they felt only to hear you say something like... "At least, you have a job" or "At least, you're doing well in something else. Life's not all bad". Well, I do it all the time and all this while I thought it was a way to make people feel better by reminding them to look on the bright side but I guess I was wrong! 

It made perfect sense to me when Dr Brené Brown said, "Rarely can a response make something better. What makes something better is connection." 

How true is that? The last time I had a bad day I reached out to someone I thought could relate to and yes, it was the fact that we had a connection that made me feel a lot better. I'm so grateful for these seemingly small important lessons.

This World Was Designed to Break Your Heart

Monday, December 09, 2013

A thought that crossed my mind today.
Inspired by Hamza Yusuf's 'Dunya and Tribulations'

xx Sha 

Faith Friday: Where are Your Manners?

Friday, December 06, 2013

Last June, I wrote a blog post with a controversial title: "I Hate Muslims". Obviously, I don't dislike [all] Muslims but this explains why I chose that title. 

"What surprised me was that in the "real world", Muslims can also be "bad" people and that it wasn't my non-Muslim friends who have hurt me the most even though some were not the best influence. After becoming a more "practicing Muslim" I naturally gained more Muslim friends compared to before. I thought my life would become simpler because I assumed all Muslims would share the same values - helping one another to do good deeds, never envy except in two occasions, advising and protecting each other from harm.  
But the reality is Muslims have let me down in ways I didn't expect and there were times when I said "I hate Muslims" even though I knew I shouldn't make a blanket statement like that. It's not fair on others. I'm not saying I haven't disappointed people and made mistakes. I'm very sure I have. I just had high expectations of others and got hurt."